There is a saying that I once heard that stuck with me. It was, “Everything you do either gets you one step closer to or one step further from your goal/s.” I like that. When I first heard it I was more interested in trying to find a situation where it didn’t hold, where it wouldn’t apply. I couldn’t find one. That’s when I realized how important and accurate of a statement it was.
I guess it all starts with knowing where you are and where you are wanting to go. Like my now deceased Step-Father Tom said, “You can’t get anywhere in the world when calling a travel agent without knowing two things: where you are now, and where it is you want to go.” So obviously you need to start by being realistic with your current status or standing in life. Then you determine your top goal/s for the day, the week, the month, or year.
This is where you get to look at various activities, traditions, and rituals that you perform throughout your day. Try not to just run through your day on auto-pilot, which in all honesty makes up about 85% of what we do. That’s a large percentage and sounds a bit high, but in actuality it is probably pretty accurate. You just aren’t aware of that fact. That’s why it is called subconscious, because it is sub – below consciousness – awareness.
Write your goals down and regularly look at and revise them. Now, as you go through your day and are entertaining doing something that maybe you shouldn’t do, this is when you should ask yourself “Is this going to get me closer to or further from my goal?” Because there is one thing for sure. It will do one of the two. There’s no way around that. Even non-action, remaining stagnant, is not moving you closer to your goal. Therefore, it is getting you one step further from your set goal.
I try to remember this phrase and need to really apply it more in my life. There are a lot of things that I do that do Not get me closer to my written goals or even just the self-ideal that I have. I just need to get better at listening to that answer that pops in my head when I ask that question to myself.
There is absolutely No reason why you should be doing anything at all that takes you further from your desired goals. If you answer “Yes you should,” then maybe you should re-evaluate your goals. Maybe they need to be adjusted and revised.
Any-who, there have been a lot of things I have been doing lately that I would have to agree are not getting me closer to the person I say I want to become again. Notice the word again. It is hard to keep in the front of my mind and think before everything I do, whether or not it is going to get me closer to or further from my goals. But it is something I need to try to do nonetheless. Like Aristotle said,”We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
Take a look into your own life and the things you do daily. Try to decipher whether or not they are helping you or hurting you. Do they represent the person you wish to portray to others, but more importantly yourself? If not, maybe it’s time to readjust your priorities and begin to change the things you do, the people you hang around, or the places you go. Like I stated earlier, EVERYTHING you do gets you either one step closer to or one step further from your goal.
– Bryan Tresenriter