Many years ago I read in a book the belief or theory that Sigmund Freud’s protegé, Carl Jung, had on how certain aspects of ourselves that we suppress, tend to pop up in our lives much more than we would want .
Let me share with you one example. Let’s say that you don’t have good conflict resolution skills; you avoid conflict at all costs. Wouldn’t you think that since you dodge as much trouble as possible, that you are less likely to get tangled up in those types of situations? The answer is actually “No.” Why? I thought you’d never ask. 🙂 In my experience, it was the opposite, meaning it seemed to draw more and more of those situations into my life. The good news though is this: When you find yourself facing a fear, it is happening to you to give you an opportunity to grow. Being outside your comfort zone hurts. Believe me. But it IS absolutely necessary if you want to lose that fear you had.
It’s crazy to think but it is so true. If you are comfortable with the status quo, your status quo, then you are the same person today as you were yesterday. If that’s what you want, then that is fine. But if you want to grow, then you need to always find a way to get outside your comfort zone. If you feel uneasy, butterflies in your stomach, your heart racing, a knot in your throat, then Good! That’s right where you want to be!
So back to my point above. What you worry about, or fear, you tend to think about a lot. What you think about and invest so much energy into, will manifest itself in your life. When it does, look at it as an opportunity, an opportunity to become better, stronger, faster, smarter, or wiser. Like Tony Robbins says, “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” Avoiding problems or fears, is like going around an object. When in actuality, the only way to accept it, face it, or get over it, is to go through it.
Thank you for reading…
~ Bryan ~